Thursday, September 15, 2005
Interview with Monash University
Journalism Undergrad
What is 'dollies gone wild' all about?We're a clique of close knit friends who have known one another for sometime. Our group name "dollies gone wild" suggests our scripted behaviors on the IRC (internet relay chat). We create several alter-egos ranging from the young, old, pregnant, and diseased. We get into character with these alter-egos, only chatting with males who initiate a chat with us. The alter-egos we use are not fixated to age ranges, we differ it and adjust according to different men who chat us up.
What is your purpose of setting up this blogsite?We set up this blog site to create awareness amongst females regardless of age that the internet relay chat, a presumed zone for making friends through interests and getting to know more people the decent way is only a mask. Behind this mask lie the majority of males who enter the IRC looking for a cheap fling, one night stands, cyber sex, phone sex and other sexually stimulating activities with willing or naïve female counterparts. This blog highlights the chats and similar methods in which the males use to exploit the minds of females on the chat channels. Thus far, our crew has slipped through channels as ordinary females waiting for males to click on us. Some males start off with asking for an introduction while there are the bolder ones who shoot off digits suggesting payment for sexual services if we provide any. We realized how bad the situation was becoming when every guy was only interested in talking about sex or looking for someone to have sex with. This issue hit a cord in us females as we all felt thoroughly insulted by the fact that these men seemed to treat us like easy toys they can get their quick pleasure by. There was not a single guy we spoke to during the span of 3 months of undercover work who wanted a decent chat or wanted to get to know us better for at least more than 5 minutes before jumping into sexual topics. Consequently, our resentment for such behavior males were showing towards females made us more fervent in creating a blog to shame them and use them as examples to raise awareness amongst particularly other teenage girls who are beginning to explore the world of net meeting and internet friend-making. The media always advises and warns people about the dangers of internet chatting and such but they never once projected the seriousness of this issue that men are exploiting the females through chat rooms.
How do you make sure that the photographs that you snapped are indeed sexual predators?The males whom we meet up with and have their pictures posted up are mostly those who we deem have committed "moral wrongs". Our definition for "moral wrongs" would be the men who have broken vows, the law in order to satisfy their own sexual gratifications. The only example we have of a meet up with a sexual predator so far is the married male whose pictures we have splashed on our blog. This man is married of 3 yrs and asked a girl (us), 19, whom he 'knew' in less than 20 minutes for sex. Our team felt that he was being unfair both to his wife and to the girl. We requested for a picture from him after which, we study the picture and when we called him to confirm the meeting; we made sure he described exactly what he would be wearing. We matched his dressing with his face when we met up with him. We also did question whether he will be coming alone or with friends. We only meet up with men with pictures as we do not like to be going for a blind meeting not knowing who we will be meeting and snapping pictures of.
What is your personal opinion of such social phenomenon (that young males and females are increasingly sealing a sex trade on the internet chat room)?We feel that the spread of technology and its easy accessibility has resulted in a more open society where sexual topics are no longer taboo. Males can gain easy access pornography and R21 movies through illegal means or through friends sharing files over the internet. These media portray the norm of one night stands, having sex with people they barely know and such. Such portrayal leads to males assuming that females in their own society can also be treated the same way. The chat room makes the deal even easier to request as both parties are hidden behind screens. Men become bolder when anonymous and abuse the use of the internet chat room to the solicitation of sexual activities and conversations.
Do you think the fault lies entirely with the male or are both parties involve in making a successful sex trade to be blame?In a successful sex trade, it takes two hands to clap. No one party is completely blamed unless it was a non-consensual sexual agreement. However, there have been cases where the males urge the females out for an innocent meeting of a movie or coffee later resulting in male pursuit in sexual activities during the meeting. For such a case, it would be the males to blame as the request to go out for an innocent meeting is misleading. Males should be responsible make sure that the girls whom they have asked for sex are of legal age or else whether it is a consensual or non-consensual meeting, it will be considered statutory rape.
If you do not think the male is to be blamed entirely, how do you justify your actions of publishing the male's photo?Our actions of publishing the male's photo particularly in the morally wrong situations for instance the set of pictures you see in the men who offered sex to underaged girls. For such cases we'd blame them entirely as they are aware of legal age for girls to begin sexual activities.
Do you think your actions will have any impact on the behaviour of males looking for sex trade on the internet chat rooms?We are hoping that by shaming them publicly on the blog, these males will realize that females cannot be judged too quickly and are not as naïve as they think. Both the males and females will also be more cautious in providing information about themselves and pictures as well. The males will take more time to know the girls before initiating sex if they still have it in mind. More girls too will be cautious and probably avoid the IRC or know recognize patterns which they have noticed in the blog; how the males evolve their conversations to one on sex. As a result, there might be a possibility of decrease in such incidents happening.
Are you aware of the legal consequences of your actions?Yes, we are aware that we can be sued if any of the pictures posted are not sent by the chatter. We have saved all chat logs and those which indicate their sending pictures, we have also saved it for evidence. Therefore, if there were to be any suing involved, we will be ready with all the proof. Presently, there are no entrapment laws in Singapore.
Could you give some advice to young readers on the consequences of having sex trade with people they know from the internet?The people behind the screen can lie smoothly and are not as trustworthy as they are perceived to be. As illustrated, we have proven ourselves as different people to the men and they never question the reliability of our particulars; smooth lies. Sex with a stranger off the net may result in the contraction of sexually transmitted diseases as well if not careful as we are not completely sure of the person’s sexual history. When net-meeting someone especially of the opposite sex, go in a group, never alone. An innocent meeting of a coffee or movie after the first chat may not turn out as expected, so always be prepared, always in groups, never alone. Once alone, the predator can lean in for the 'kill'.
Lastly, are there any other comments that are important that you would like to add?This blog has an added entertainment to allow readers to introduce it to others, in turn creating a wider circle of awareness. It is proven that humor can inject better learning, understanding and interest in the subject than if its mundanely drilled into the minds of the public. With irony and twisted humor injected into the blog, readers leave with the need to come back and read more rather than just read it today and forget it tomorrow.
When our team logs onto the IRC, we
do not use misleading IRC nicknames like "hotbody" or "sexygirl" to chat up guys. With IRC nicknames like these, it is clearly showing our purpose in the channel. Our purpose is not to seek out the guys who are lured by our nicknames. We log in using IRC nicknames like common names, sports eg, "jenniferr", "tennisgirl", "Melissa". These nicknames indicate decency and are not nicks with an intention for attention from males.
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