Male species generalising no doubt have one thing on their mind. Sex. Sex. Sex. Of course, that is simply a general statement.
Here we would like to illustrate to you the 2 kinds of "relationships" and "status" that males like to form with you in order to get into your pants. These 2 sleazy characters that we have speculated, please do caution yourself. However, we would like to say that the two depicted personalities are generalisations and not all of such characters want to get sexual with you. As a girl, one should always know every way possible to protect-self.
The God brother
He promises to take care of you and be the brother your mother never gave birth to. He takes you out, brings you to places, meet new people and calls to ask you "how was your day? anyone bully you? if anyone did, i beat the fella for you".
As time passes, you question yourself "do i like him? he sure seems to care alot for me." He does seem to be playing the role of a boyfriend. no-strings-attached, isn't he?
He begins to be rather touchy and you dismiss these advances as accidental or even as ways to show he is concerned and protective.
Then your 'god-brother' who lavished you with that amount of care, concern and protection wants something in return. He wants to get physical with you.
His reason "I've been so good to you, I protected you, bought you things u like, been so good to you haven't I? Why can't you fulfil my ONE and ONLY request I ever asked from you? After all I have done, I never asked for anything in return. Why don't you just satisfy this ONE need I have?"
You start to feel obligated to fulfil his need because what he did say was true. He has been good to you all this while and you never repayed him.
If such cases happen, then this guy who is your "god-brother" is not true in delivering what he intended to deliver which is his care and concern as a brother. "Brother and sister" type relationships should never have to cross into a physical border. By blood, it is incestious. By logic, if you treat someone as a brother or sister, sexual relations should also cross your mind as "dirty" and "wrong". Never ever feel obligated to fulfil something that you are not ready to do. He wanted to lavish all that care and concern, you did not beg for it. So why should he be wanting you to give him something so big in return. Girls, it is important you know that your body is much more valueable than any amount of soft-toys, flowers, movies, clothes or expensive meals he buys for you. If he respects you and treats you as a "sister", the thought of getting physical should not even cross his mind. He should respect you and not make you feel bad by using what he has done for you because if he has to dip so low as to use such methods, it is obvious his intention was never to care for you for real or make you happy. His intention was obviously to get you in bed.
If rejection results in the sudden stop in his concern and care, then the answer is splashed all over his face that his motive was to sleep with you. You deserve much better than someone who disrespects you and treats you this way. Even if you do sleep with him, it does not guarantee his care. He might lose interest in you because he has obtained what he as pinning for; your body. It leaves you being on his "list of cheap" girls who he managed to bed in the process of doing his "i have done so much for you, just fulfil my one need!" stunt.
Respect yourself and know what is right and wrong. Learning from lessons is one thing. Knowing how to protect yourself is another.
The Guy who Asks you to be his girlfriend in less
than 12 hours after you got to know him.
The above title should already ring alarm bells in your head that this guy sounds fishy. Absurd it is for someone who knew you within 12 hours and instantly asks you to be his girlfriend. Here is an example chat log. We posed as a 14 year old. The guy instantly asked us to be his gf stating that it is because he loves the girl we posed as.
Victim 39: Desperado Session Start: Mon Oct 31 16:01:07 2005 [curious] hi [curious] can w ehave a chat <*********> sure [curious] 18m [curious] u <*********> 14f [curious] u attach <*********> what u curious about leh? <*********> nopez [curious] u mind guy looks <*********> hmm ok loh [curious] can we try stead <*********> stead? [curious] ya <*********> means u be my boyfriend? [curious] ya <*********> oh <*********> where u studying? [curious] temasek poly <*********> oh <*********> my brother studying there oso [curious] u b my gf ok <*********> but i juz got to noe u <*********> how many gers u ask b gf leh? [curious] only u <*********> :) [curious] ok <*********> i never see u b4 leh [curious] u gt pic <*********> i using my mum office computer cos i helping her photocopy stuff but now free [curious] ur num <*********> num? <*********> no my mum [curious] u gt hp <*********> yup [curious] can exchange num <*********> later when going offline that time [curious] y <*********> we chat first get to know each other first [curious] u gt how many ex <*********> dun haf b4 [curious] ur ht wt <*********> 152 41 [curious] y u no ex bf b4 <*********> i dun wan a bf loh [curious] y u dun wan <*********> scared my parents dun like and must hide all, very mah fan [curious] i promise i love u <*********> u will? [curious] yup i scared i get hurtz. my frens like always hurtz [curious] hmm [curious] wat happento them <*********> their bf lie to them or cheat then they sad loh [curious] i wun lo <*********> they also say they wont then end up lie <*********> sadz [curious] where u stay <*********> hougang [curious] when u holidae <*********> now holiday le [curious] gt guys woo u b4 <*********> gt [curious] u dun like them ah <*********> haha ok lah but i scared [curious] scared wat <*********> hurt [curious] gers have to hv bf at some stage lo [curious] okok <*********> true [curious] i so bored nw <*********> i also bored [curious] muack [curious] i nt handsome u mind <*********> realli ah <*********> how many gf u haf b4 [curious] 1 <*********> how long last? [curious] 5mth [curious] y <*********> ic <*********> how old was she? [curious] sameageas me <*********> oh ok <*********> where u meet her? [curious] irc <*********> oh icic <*********> then why break le? [curious] owas quarrel <*********> icic [curious] u mind <*********> nope <*********> but i dunno why i so special to be ur gf <*********> i jus got to know u <*********> n i m younger than u by alot [curious] i wan u [curious] ok ma [curious] u there <*********> y u wan me leh <*********> thats my question [curious] i am lonely <*********> u got no friends?:( [curious] yup [curious] be my gf la [curious] okok ma <*********> hmm [curious] i will be faithful to u <*********> realli <*********> how to guarentee [curious] u thrust nme lo <*********> thrust? [curious] yup <*********> but i jus got 2 know u [curious] dear [curious] plssss [curious] believe me [curious] u dun believe me ah [curious] u there [curious] u there
After reading the log, how can u trust someone who can't even spell the word trust properly? The guy just got to know the girl, she is underaged. Why would he want to target her as someone who he wants as a girlfriend?
Reason, being in a relationship with a guy entitles a guy to unlimited sexual requests depending on the willing nature of his girlfriend. Being in a relationship entitles OFFICIAL claim and rights over a girl's body because you "belong" to the person.
If a guy wants you as his girlfriend, he will get to know you very well before popping the question to ask you to be his girlfriend. He makes sure he knows ur habits, how many siblings you have, your hates, favourites, friends and more before committing into a serious relationship. On the IRC case, the guy does not even know the girl and how she looks even! How can he be really sincerely interested in her? and he never bothered giving a good introduction about himself. His name, the most important element in getting to know someone, is unknown.
Upon knowing a guy in real-life situations, and he pops such a question asking you to be his girlfriend after knowing you less than 12 hours is also another obvious indication for a sexual motive. Reason being that the only thing he knows most about you during that 12 hours of knowing you is probably your name, age, school/job and how you look. Superficial judgement.
Allow the guy to get to know YOU and proper way. Know him as well and his sexual/ex-girlfriend count history. All these information is important as it gives you a rough indication of how he is like when it comes to relationships and if he is a player or a commitment sort of guy. However, do note, guys can lie as well about their history to paint a more colourful picture about themselves to make you like them more. Find out not only from him but from his friends as well.
Get to know the guy well. The better you know him, the less hard you fall if he hurts you. Make sure a guy gives you the respect you deserve and not let yourself be cheapened by accepting a quick deal of being his "girlfriend".
Wishing All Indians and Malays World-wide a Happy DeepaRaya!
she left that guy dangling naked, with nowhere to hide his bits 2:10 AM
WebWhore
who's your daddy mama?
_that sexy devil behind the screen_
A crew of girls setting out to fish out the moral wrongs of internet meetings and what really goes on during the chat.
These men have shamed the name of the male gender.
Regardless of legal or illegal age for the males requesting for sex, it is a downright insult to females to have men asking for sex within 2 mins into an introduction.
Females deserve more respect than being used as a sex toy, satisfying male sexual urges.
We bring to you the uncensored ugliness of the internet chatzone that the media has failed to bring to our attention
Society may be more open today but it does not give anyone the right to assume that females can be treated as commodities that can be bought off the shelf nor that females are stores which men can walk in and out of whenever they fancy.
UPDATES! (23 Feb 2007)
We'll be on Channel News Asia's Blogtv.sg
Watch for what others and we have to say on 27th Feb (next tuesday), 8.30pm
this blog should serve as an educational eye opener to the singapore virtual chatzone particularly to the young ladies exploring the world of net-meeting
This blog is crude, obnoxious and does not care for any resemblance in chat patterns observed.
Thats how the real world is like
What you see may not be what you get
this site serves as a warning to all the men out there
that whoever you're chatting with might not
be a sweet pussy but a conviving one
Whatever your mother tells you about the
dangers of internet chatroom meeting...
...she is not joking nor exaggerating
enjoy your stay here.
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